Happily Never After Update: Meet Mike

I have a bit of a confession to make. For the last few years, I’ve been writing all this stuff about ‘relationships’ and ‘dating’ and ‘being single’, and to be quite honest, it was all speculation and theory; I didn’t know if “Prepping for Prince Charming” was actually a real thing, or if it was […]

“In Sickness and in Health”

A reader wrote to me the other day about a struggle she/he is having with his/her significant other, and I really felt passionately enough about the issue to respond via public blog post. The issue went something like–“I was diagnosed with [a life changing illness] he/she doesn’t want to take care of me, so he/she […]

In Defense of Love Letters

As we all know, time is something that passes us by quicker than we would like, and one of my favorite things about writing is that that writing allows us to capture a suspended moment in time. Its always enlightening, and quite entertaining, to look back through my high school journals and see a suspended […]

To My Future Husband, This I Vow To Thee Today–

I believe singledom-hood is a very important and unique time in one’s life that should not be taken lightly, because it is when we are able to experiment the most with identity formation, without too many harsh consequences. It’s kind of like being in teaching school–because teaching requires so many in the moment judgements and […]

Transits of Love

I’m adding a sixth book to my list of favorites: The Transit of Venus by Shirley Hazzard. The novel spans thirty years, and follows two sisters (Grace and Caro Bell) as they enter adult hood, the work force, marriage. The writing is poetic, and the narrative structure is a mix between traditional Victorian novel (love […]

New Dating Rules (Now That I’m 26)

According to statistics, now that I’m 26, I’m creeping closer to the national marrying age of 28, which means the game is changing, it’s time for me to start getting serious, so the rules must change as well: 1.Date with the intention of marriage: When I was 16, it was important to date someone who […]

Social Contracts Between Men & Women

We can blame the Victorian’s for their influence on social etiquette. There are two reasons we created “etiquette”, or rules to follow in social situations. For one, etiquette translates to status, and status translates to power. The more rules I know, the more refined I am, the more money my parents had to send me […]

5 Reasons Why I Choose to Be Single

Here’s the question I seem to be answering a lot of this holiday season: “Britany, why don’t you have a boyfriend?” …so instead of explaining every single time to people the long winded answer, I’m just going to write a blog post about it, and the next time I get asked, I’ll send just the […]

How to Read ‘Happily Never After’

Happily Never After was more of a thought experiment than anything else. I worked as a research intern in a grieving center for families whilst in college, so I kind of wanted to see if it were possible to put a break up (a form of loss) through the same emotional trajectory as any other […]

Roles for Women (Other than Being Wives and Mothers)

My friend last week said, “Ministries and media often focus on families and motherhood, which sends the message that women can’t fulfill their purpose outside these roles”. After interacting with so many 20-Something women, I’ve come to realize that we are a mess. No one knows what they want to do with their life; their […]