[Addendum]: How to Create 30 MORE Minutes of Margin in Your Life

10. Respond to your text messages all at once: Ok, so let’s talk about the process of responding to text messages. First, you have to grab your phone and unlock it (2 seconds). Then, you have to go to your messaging ap (1 second), click on the message (.5 seconds), read the message (2.5 seconds […]

“…Am I misreading God’s signs?…”

(As a caveat, this is a set of contemplations–a thought experiment, and is in NO way intended to be a final determination) I’ve definitely been in this position before–where I felt like I was listening to ALL of God’s signs, I was doing EVERYTHING He was telling me to do. I prayed, I was obedient, […]

How to Create 30 Minutes of Margin in Your Day

It is no new concept that we all live busy lives, and in order to withstand our busy-ness, people are always encouraging us to “create margins” so that we have “extra space” in our days to not feel so frantic and busy all of the time. Then we might say to those people, “but how […]

10 Things About Love Bachelorette Becca Taught Me

10. Concrete answers pass you onto the next level: On her hometown with Garrett, Becca mentioned one of her frustrations with Arie was that he was never concrete with her–he was always abstract?–so it was important to her that Garrett give her concrete answers. And, to appease her anxieties, Garrett’s concrete answer was, “My job […]

Reflections from “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?”

Producers and audiences have a moral responsibility to produce moral T.V.: Because we see T.V. as a reflection of our own realities, we bring the things we see on T.V–the situations, ideas, and character traits, resolutions–into our own lives. (As the documentary states), when Fred Rogers returned home from college and saw T.V. for the first […]

Some Cognitive Restructuring Ideas for When Encountering Strangers

Strangers are REALLY easy for us to think negative and judgmental thoughts about, because, well, we don’t know them, they have no allegiance to us, and we can do what we do naturally–assume the worst intentions. But, assuming the worst intentions leads to negative thoughts, negative thoughts lead to bad moods and stress and anxiety […]

To Be Engaged in Our World

Someone recently asked me, “What are three things you hope to instill in your students?” Of course, if I were in control of my own world, I’d totally instill a love of quality literature (you know, not the Fifty Shades of Grey dime-store novel stuff  that seems to always populate the shelves and hit the best […]

A Note to Whom is Making a Life Change

A Note to Whom is Making a Life Change: You are doing great. Keep at it. Remember that you are making a lifestyle change–perhaps something that has been rooted in your identity for decades–and that this will take time and it will take effort, but it will be worth it in the end. And that […]