Happily Never After Update: Meet Mike

I have a bit of a confession to make. For the last few years, I’ve been writing all this stuff about ‘relationships’ and ‘dating’ and ‘being single’, and to be quite honest, it was all speculation and theory; I didn’t know if “Prepping for Prince Charming” was actually a real thing, or if it was […]

7 Ways to Lead with Love

7. Tell people how you feel about them: For some reason, we hold compliments sacred, as if by giving out too many, we will somehow exhaust our resources and we will suck away at the amount of compliments available to us, and so we just don’t share them. It’s like the supply of velvet Elvis paintings–only […]

The Stuff Stories are Made Of

Sometimes, I think reading too many stories can be detrimental to us. Take the award-winning new drama, “This is Us”; what attracts people to the T.V. show is how the show handles real-life situations. Yes, we all may not necessarily have a famous Manny as our brothers, but we certainly know someone who has weight […]

Rejection and Rachel’s Obligation

This week, Rachel on The Bachelorette will essentially have rejected all but one “last man standing”. In preparation for this week’s episode, I’ve been contemplating: how much explanation DOES one owe when instigating a break up? Let’s back track a few years ago. I once had this boyfriend who called me one day on the phone and […]

“In Sickness and in Health”

A reader wrote to me the other day about a struggle she/he is having with his/her significant other, and I really felt passionately enough about the issue to respond via public blog post. The issue went something like–“I was diagnosed with [a life changing illness] he/she doesn’t want to take care of me, so he/she […]

In Defense of Love Letters

As we all know, time is something that passes us by quicker than we would like, and one of my favorite things about writing is that that writing allows us to capture a suspended moment in time. Its always enlightening, and quite entertaining, to look back through my high school journals and see a suspended […]

Why Nice Guys Finish Last

Dating requires some salesmanship skills. Because time is always of the essence, like a job interview, you need to sell yourself in the first five minutes to really ensure you will move into Round 2. There certainly are examples all over pop culture of the Not-Nice Guy, getting the girl–Don Draper at the top of […]

How to Ask a Girl on a Date.

(This post has kind of exploded into many different ramblings, so I’m going to give you subheadings so you can skip to the sections that are most relevant to you) Audience: Now, this works for a girl you have seen a few times, perhaps through mutual friends, a girl you talk to a few times […]

To My Future Husband, This I Vow To Thee Today–

I believe singledom-hood is a very important and unique time in one’s life that should not be taken lightly, because it is when we are able to experiment the most with identity formation, without too many harsh consequences. It’s kind of like being in teaching school–because teaching requires so many in the moment judgements and […]

The Disadvantages of Being Single (Part II)

I entered single-hood three? four years? ago (hey, when you are at the end of your dating rope, these things kind of just run together). I wrote “The Disadvantages of Being Single” (which got an overwhelming response) at the beginning of this journey, and now that I’m a more seasoned veteran, I’d like to add […]