To My Future Husband, This I Vow To Thee Today–

I believe singledom-hood is a very important and unique time in one’s life that should not be taken lightly, because it is when we are able to experiment the most with identity formation, without too many harsh consequences. It’s kind of like being in teaching school–because teaching requires so many in the moment judgements and […]

The Disadvantages of Being Single (Part II)

I entered single-hood three? four years? ago (hey, when you are at the end of your dating rope, these things kind of just run together). I wrote “The Disadvantages of Being Single” (which got an overwhelming response) at the beginning of this journey, and now that I’m a more seasoned veteran, I’d like to add […]

All the Love Advice I’ve Ever Read, Summed Up in One Post.

I see these headlines all over the place: “How to Make Him Want You”, “10 Easy Steps to Be Irresistible”, “How to Tell If He Likes You”…I just read one, “22 Qualities Guys Look For in Woman that Will Make Him Stay”, and it basically outlined all these really vague things–“be honest”, “be supportive”, “if […]

Along the Road Towards Love

I love hearing stories of how people met their significant others, and despite the fact that every story is very different and very unique to the couple, every story carries the same two threads: when you know, you know, and that timing, while we cannot always predict it, is always perfect. I’ve heard stories about […]

Social Contracts Between Men & Women

We can blame the Victorian’s for their influence on social etiquette. There are two reasons we created “etiquette”, or rules to follow in social situations. For one, etiquette translates to status, and status translates to power. The more rules I know, the more refined I am, the more money my parents had to send me […]

The Ebb and Flow of Time

It seems that, these days, everyone is hurrying up to finish writing their happily ever after. For some reason, everyone is scurrying to find their Prince Charming, and quick to get married. They are anxious to start their lives together, to buy their first house, to get big promotions in their jobs, to settle down […]

What If Love, Is Not Enough?

I was always under the impression that the way it works is you find someone you love, that you are most compatible with. And, then you love each other so much that you can’t live without and you get married. I always thought it was the way you felt about each other that drove everything […]

5 Non-Negotiables for My “Prince Charming”

We all have our “lists” of characteristics we want in a potential mate. These might include, but are also not limited to, things like, “must be willing to move around”, “must have chocolate brown eyes”, “must have obtained a college degree”, “must have a foreign accent”, “must be a good cook”. The beauty of the […]

Where Have All the Good Guys Gone: A Call to Action

This 17 day holiday break has been a very magical time for me. I have spent a lot of time reconnecting with old friends, reminiscing on my past, and rethinking what I want out of my future. As you may know, I have been on a dating/relationship research project. My goals have been to interview […]